... wedding chaos ..
Date: 1st July 2007
Time: 4 am to 12 am
Event: Cousin's Wedding
Venue: **varies from different time of the day
my little cousins... flower girls and pageboy.. AHEM or should i say .. P-I-M-P !This wedding that was organized, it was small, simple, rushing and yet confusing, draining and WILD.. whoa.. it was one heck of a day.. i'll go slow on the details.. so keep your eyes open and be ready for some 'bragging'.. tehhee
Well, the wedding planning started off 2 weeks ago, before the actual date of the event. My granmama (Ahma) picked the date, 17th day of the 5th month (chinese calender) also, 1st of July 2007, as the date.. because it was a good date for marriages... the other one was on Tuesday but working day and that day, it was 'siaw Leong' - (cannot got dragon in hokkien) ..hmm how to explain this.. okay... it basically means on different days.. got pantang some 'animals' cannot attend on that day.. you know when you were born u got this animal character right.. based on which month you were born.. chinese one lar.. yea.. we chose sunday because that day was pantang tiger.. my family only one of my aunt is tiger so good lor.. if we were to choose tuesday, it's pantang dragon and there're 7 dragons in my family.. and also, if you dont get married now.. you'll have to wait until the 8th month of the lunar calender, cause normally the 6th and 7th month are considered unlucky.. so hehe sunday it is...
Hmm the wedding dress, make-ups, car, and all that erm .. my auntie control.. wait i have to tell you first.. the AUNTIES..
AUNITES.. consisting of.. ~ my mum.. as the 'Ah KU' - matchmaker lar.. (very kepoh..swt..) ~ cousin's mummy - second uncle's wife.. ~ my 'seh suk meh' - youngest uncle's wife.. -( most kepoh..) ~ my 'sze suk meh' - fourth's ucnle's wife.. ~ my 'siao ku' - youngest auntie
they are the ones controlling and planning everything.. they decide, they call, the CONQUER.. i just sit back and listen to them,. hehe.. well after a few serious round of planning.. the wedding was coming to life.. before that was just some gossip around 3rd mile or somewhere.. Then approx a week before the actual event, it was time to 'sung kim' - (send gold) to .. somewhat negocaite a price to buy the girl from the house.. ( my dad said it was some sort of downpayment.. ) my mum was the one in charge to bring my cousin for the settlement..
Early that day, it was on the Bak-Chang festival Day too.. cun-cun.. Tuesday.. the AUNTIES prepared a basket of 8 bahan.. erm .. red cloth, gold, powdered longan, tea, candy, oranges,bak-chang and money $.. and was set to go to the girl's house at 7.00 am.. early morning.. So she did woke up earlier that day .. and brought my cousin over to their house.. and negotiate.. yum-cha a bit.. talk about the customs and stuff.. then settle lar.. confirm.. both side.. guy and girl.. so now we buy the stuff and get ready for the ACTUAL DAY!!.. Wohoo
So it goes, day after day after day it fades, more stuff to buy and the intensity draws even crazier.. i cant summarize the whole week of talking and buying stuff.. it's too boring.. all i do is to wait for the day.. of course i helped them a little.. liek deco.. cleaning and stuff lar.. the rest, AUNTIES control.. like choosing mattress, wardrobe, photo taking in studios, dress, tux, etc etc lar.. big bucks dude..
Finally, the day before the wedding, 30th june, we were all psyched up for the next day, i went to my cousin's at noon to see whether they need help or not.. whoa.. so surprised to see balloons everywhere, little kids (my little cousins) running around.. with balloons.. AUNTIES and Ahma in the kitchen .. cutting veggies and stuff.. cleaning etc etc..hehe so excited already lol.. then the car was here.. it was a Rio (Kia) - i told u this was a simple, small wedding mar.. so i guess no need to borrow merc or BMW lar.. Rio is good enough.. it was pink flowers and ribbons.. soo cute!
Oh yah, my 'seh suk meh' very very kepoh one.. wan make the deco soo over over.. bought balloons and ask us kids to blow em up and tie them like all around the stariway to the room.. haiyo.. c'mon la.. dahla the house is kinda small... wan make so fancy again?? where got enough space?? Yes, yes and the last minute stuff... the teapot for 'pang teh' -(serving tea) .. all the angpows needed for the big day tomorrow.. and WHAT?? Still got briefing.. wah liew.. /tsk /tsk
We (the ones following the crew) were asked to be there at my cousin's at 4 am sharp.. yes, let me rephrase.. 4 AM in THE MORNING!! and that time was already 11 something.. /swt.. so little sleep.. Oh yah, i got my job as the camera girl/usherer/coordinater for tomorrow.. sigh..
Yes, finally the day came.. the big wedding! i woke up at 4.05.. >.<>
1) The car cannot reverse when the bride is in the car..
2) Bride must go in from the north side.. (who careS?? no one got compass wad...)
3) Bride must sit at the back of the driver.. while the groom sit behind the passenger's seat..
4) cannot swear - for bridge and groom.. (ahahah like my cousin care.. he swears.. all the time.. ahahha)
5) must put firecrakers.. (what?? 5 in the morning?? siaw man)
6) must put love/wedding songs all day long.. ...
still got somemore but i cant seem to remember.. i'll add on when it gets into my head soon enough.. so.. around 5 we bertolak .. 3 cars to the bride's house... -_-!! soo early...
the bride lives at batu kawah - desa wira area lol.. wah liew so confusing the roads inside there.. it's like.. maze.. you take wrong turn.. you'll end up in some lorong elsewhere.. dahla .. 5 in the morning.. whr got ppl?? no car!! 7 mins already sampai lo.. no traffic again.. when we finally reached thr.. the gate was open but the door was close. ???? APE NI?? My cousin went in.. give angpow.. (* bear in mind that this is a SMALL and SIMPLE wedding.., dont have the people ask for RM 999,999 or ask the groom do push-ups and etc... keep it simple!!>.)
Well, the wedding planning started off 2 weeks ago, before the actual date of the event. My granmama (Ahma) picked the date, 17th day of the 5th month (chinese calender) also, 1st of July 2007, as the date.. because it was a good date for marriages... the other one was on Tuesday but working day and that day, it was 'siaw Leong' - (cannot got dragon in hokkien) ..hmm how to explain this.. okay... it basically means on different days.. got pantang some 'animals' cannot attend on that day.. you know when you were born u got this animal character right.. based on which month you were born.. chinese one lar.. yea.. we chose sunday because that day was pantang tiger.. my family only one of my aunt is tiger so good lor.. if we were to choose tuesday, it's pantang dragon and there're 7 dragons in my family.. and also, if you dont get married now.. you'll have to wait until the 8th month of the lunar calender, cause normally the 6th and 7th month are considered unlucky.. so hehe sunday it is...
Hmm the wedding dress, make-ups, car, and all that erm .. my auntie control.. wait i have to tell you first.. the AUNTIES..
AUNITES.. consisting of.. ~ my mum.. as the 'Ah KU' - matchmaker lar.. (very kepoh..swt..) ~ cousin's mummy - second uncle's wife.. ~ my 'seh suk meh' - youngest uncle's wife.. -( most kepoh..) ~ my 'sze suk meh' - fourth's ucnle's wife.. ~ my 'siao ku' - youngest auntie
they are the ones controlling and planning everything.. they decide, they call, the CONQUER.. i just sit back and listen to them,. hehe.. well after a few serious round of planning.. the wedding was coming to life.. before that was just some gossip around 3rd mile or somewhere.. Then approx a week before the actual event, it was time to 'sung kim' - (send gold) to .. somewhat negocaite a price to buy the girl from the house.. ( my dad said it was some sort of downpayment.. ) my mum was the one in charge to bring my cousin for the settlement..
Early that day, it was on the Bak-Chang festival Day too.. cun-cun.. Tuesday.. the AUNTIES prepared a basket of 8 bahan.. erm .. red cloth, gold, powdered longan, tea, candy, oranges,bak-chang and money $.. and was set to go to the girl's house at 7.00 am.. early morning.. So she did woke up earlier that day .. and brought my cousin over to their house.. and negotiate.. yum-cha a bit.. talk about the customs and stuff.. then settle lar.. confirm.. both side.. guy and girl.. so now we buy the stuff and get ready for the ACTUAL DAY!!.. Wohoo
So it goes, day after day after day it fades, more stuff to buy and the intensity draws even crazier.. i cant summarize the whole week of talking and buying stuff.. it's too boring.. all i do is to wait for the day.. of course i helped them a little.. liek deco.. cleaning and stuff lar.. the rest, AUNTIES control.. like choosing mattress, wardrobe, photo taking in studios, dress, tux, etc etc lar.. big bucks dude..
Finally, the day before the wedding, 30th june, we were all psyched up for the next day, i went to my cousin's at noon to see whether they need help or not.. whoa.. so surprised to see balloons everywhere, little kids (my little cousins) running around.. with balloons.. AUNTIES and Ahma in the kitchen .. cutting veggies and stuff.. cleaning etc etc..hehe so excited already lol.. then the car was here.. it was a Rio (Kia) - i told u this was a simple, small wedding mar.. so i guess no need to borrow merc or BMW lar.. Rio is good enough.. it was pink flowers and ribbons.. soo cute!
Oh yah, my 'seh suk meh' very very kepoh one.. wan make the deco soo over over.. bought balloons and ask us kids to blow em up and tie them like all around the stariway to the room.. haiyo.. c'mon la.. dahla the house is kinda small... wan make so fancy again?? where got enough space?? Yes, yes and the last minute stuff... the teapot for 'pang teh' -(serving tea) .. all the angpows needed for the big day tomorrow.. and WHAT?? Still got briefing.. wah liew.. /tsk /tsk
We (the ones following the crew) were asked to be there at my cousin's at 4 am sharp.. yes, let me rephrase.. 4 AM in THE MORNING!! and that time was already 11 something.. /swt.. so little sleep.. Oh yah, i got my job as the camera girl/usherer/coordinater for tomorrow.. sigh..
Yes, finally the day came.. the big wedding! i woke up at 4.05.. >.<>
1) The car cannot reverse when the bride is in the car..
2) Bride must go in from the north side.. (who careS?? no one got compass wad...)
3) Bride must sit at the back of the driver.. while the groom sit behind the passenger's seat..
4) cannot swear - for bridge and groom.. (ahahah like my cousin care.. he swears.. all the time.. ahahha)
5) must put firecrakers.. (what?? 5 in the morning?? siaw man)
6) must put love/wedding songs all day long.. ...
Sarang-Heyo!.. My nerdy cousin with his 'baru bangun tidur look' and my little cousins... and the bride.. arent they cute???
still got somemore but i cant seem to remember.. i'll add on when it gets into my head soon enough.. so.. around 5 we bertolak .. 3 cars to the bride's house... -_-!! soo early...
the bride lives at batu kawah - desa wira area lol.. wah liew so confusing the roads inside there.. it's like.. maze.. you take wrong turn.. you'll end up in some lorong elsewhere.. dahla .. 5 in the morning.. whr got ppl?? no car!! 7 mins already sampai lo.. no traffic again.. when we finally reached thr.. the gate was open but the door was close. ???? APE NI?? My cousin went in.. give angpow.. (* bear in mind that this is a SMALL and SIMPLE wedding.., dont have the people ask for RM 999,999 or ask the groom do push-ups and etc... keep it simple!!>.)
the bag.. said to be.. containing the money.. /gg.. i wan curi..
the GOLDEN chicken, slippers, teapot and etc.. all Chinese couples must have one..then they opened the door then we all go in.. like.. 12 ppl.. her house was small la.. small terrence.. barely fit 12 ppl.. then the bride like jemput us in.. ask us sit down.. get 'air bunga kotak' for us.. ".enough or not?? .. enough?? . u got water??.." weird!! i know.. but .. i also duno la.. then the parents like belum mandi lagi.. my mum get ready her red umbrella.. put outside.. then siao mek reverse the car and park properly first (L parking) so that they can just terus go when the bride in the car... but we sat down for a while la.. took some pictures.. chat with the girl side family.. then they exchanged rings.. then my mum saw the time... 5.45.. owh man!! late lor.. /omg
7) Bride must step into house before 6 am (* critical hour)
then faster faster i drink finish my teh bunga and faster go out.. ready to snap pictures again! my mum get ready umbrella...
my mum with the red umbrella...
whoa. wan go liao.. siao mek go inside car.. hidupkan engin.. my cousin fast fast say bye bye to auntie uncle there.. then we're off.. zooming through the whole streght of batu kawah at 5.45 to race against time!! then jsut right before we reach.. we call 'ah pek' - cousin's dad .. to put the mercun.. (* at first wan put like the whole row of firecrackers but .. you know la.. 5 something is sleeping time.. @.@) so we placed like.. 1 meter of those little firecrakers... lit it.. timing was just nice.. cun cun the firecrakers finish, the car also sampai at the door.. my mum take umbrella then my 'seh suk meh' take the basket of chicken.. slipper and stuff.. lead the road.. (*like some keh bo..) followed by 4 of my little cousins..
'Pang teh' ceremony.. grandparents.. **nervousness..
then the bride and groom la.. walk slowly into the door... (5.58 am) .. phew.. that was close.. then rest for a while.. eat eat.. then see the bride's room.. Ooo yeah, another car followed us, (girl side) .. it was the family and relatives .. then went in the house and we all kelompok at the small room.. i snap a few pics then chow liao.. too hot.. then we had breakfast.. and some rest.. My mum readied the teapot and cups for 'pang teh' .. My grandma and grandpa.. got in line first, cause they were eldest.. the gave angpows and golden bracelet.. the bride have to wear it .. as a sign of respect.. 'you akur to that family like that la..' then at 8 we went out around to take pictures.. because my grandma say need to so around at least one place to take pictures.. so suggestions were thrown.. to where they should go to take pic..
hiyak! Who's that korean guy?? MEh, it's the bride's bro, Ah Leck .. mauhah
~ the place at summerhouse there...
~ orchid garden
~ waterfront? omg.. so embarassing..
~ damai.. so far.. ...
... In the end.. guess where we picked?? TAMAN SAHABAT.. ahahah, bingo! i also dunno.. but if i were to shoot pictures around kuching, i wouldn't.. but terpaksa la.. so again 4 cars.. go to taman sahabat.. and take pictures.. we took some .. ermm.. cool pictures i think.. and at that particular time, another couple was there too.. but they're in fron..we're at the back.. how can we compare to them? They got like .. possies, photographers, make-up artists.. and we got like.. me to hold the camera.. but we win cause we got 3 little flower girls and a pageboy.. ahaha then we returned to the girl's side house for 'pang teh' .. got a few angpows myself .. (erm.. all those who were tailing the bride's car must get angpow.. it's custom..).. YAYS.. a few extra bucks..
7) Bride must step into house before 6 am (* critical hour)
then faster faster i drink finish my teh bunga and faster go out.. ready to snap pictures again! my mum get ready umbrella...
my mum with the red umbrella...
'Pang teh' ceremony.. grandparents.. **nervousness..
hiyak! Who's that korean guy?? MEh, it's the bride's bro, Ah Leck .. mauhah~ orchid garden
~ waterfront? omg.. so embarassing..
~ damai.. so far.. ...
... In the end.. guess where we picked?? TAMAN SAHABAT.. ahahah, bingo! i also dunno.. but if i were to shoot pictures around kuching, i wouldn't.. but terpaksa la.. so again 4 cars.. go to taman sahabat.. and take pictures.. we took some .. ermm.. cool pictures i think.. and at that particular time, another couple was there too.. but they're in fron..we're at the back.. how can we compare to them? They got like .. possies, photographers, make-up artists.. and we got like.. me to hold the camera.. but we win cause we got 3 little flower girls and a pageboy.. ahaha then we returned to the girl's side house for 'pang teh' .. got a few angpows myself .. (erm.. all those who were tailing the bride's car must get angpow.. it's custom..).. YAYS.. a few extra bucks..
cousin and his best man/driver.. 'siao mek'
my little two cousins.. Natalie and Kenken.. kawaii!!Phew.. that was indeed tiring.. but it aint end yet! after pang teh at girl's side.. we returned once again to my cousin's house for lunch and more pang teh.. this time.. it's the rest of the family aside from my grandparents earlier on.. very very long process... i got my turn too and got another angpow! YAY!!
then i went back to bath and take 5 mins nap.. too tired liao.. aduh, my mum dragged me up and we went back to my cousin's at around 1.. for lunch.. buffet from satay house! yays.. all my relatives and my cousin's friend were there.. woohoo.. nice food.. yum yum.. for the afternoon.. my mum said i need not follow soo i guess i got the day off.. NOT.. after eating my mum, dad, sis went back to rest.. while i stayed behind to help cleaning up... that lasted like.. 2 hours.. my cousin and his wife pulak went back to desa wira for.. '3rd visit' -.. some pantang also la.. after that they will be going to the studios to get changed and preparation for the night..
this is the part where i get to brag about me being hardworking.. i helped my auntie clear the plates.. cleaned the floor.. mop..sweep.. wash the car porch and clean dishes.. Just right before my cousin went off, he slid another angpow in my pocket! YAYS!! 3rd one for the day man.. Soon after, my 'seh suk meh', 'kimberly' (cousin), ah boy (cousin, also groom's bro), siao ku, ah yang (cousin, siao ku's son) and myself.. went to get our hair done..
hehe we went to several places but all tutup. So we end up in Vienna, Hui Sing.. the lady was the only one who's making our hair.. so we took turns..
My seh suk meh - he did her hair poofy.. like some 70'ies style.. primmadonna... poofy..
Kim - he curled the end of her hair temporarily.. cute
Me - got my hair washed.. refreshing absolutely.. and got it tied half to the back with pins then a bit curly in the front.. it does look weird to me at first.. i like.. grew 5 years older!
Siao ku - she got washed and blew her hair.. macam normal aje.
Ah boy - he too got his hair washed and spiked his hair.. like some tsunami just hit his hair.. to one side..
ah yang - his hair was thick so he got it cut, then spiked.. like cloud FF7.. but not blonde.. and his hair kurang sikit..
Okay, it was already 5.25pm when i got home and i only got like 10 mins to get ready and zoom off the the dinner .. (grandma say have to be there at 6).. so faster i bath and change then we went to cousin's at 5.45.. Whoa my grandparents were ready.. but the rest were.. running around doing this and that.. @.@ ,, chaos..
at 6 the bride and groom got there first to greet the guest.. just in case.. We, family members.. arrived late.. around 6.15.. but still in time.. i got there and did my job.. snap snap snap.. guests arrived slowly... and out of our expectations.. there were more guests than we expected.. yes, we did reserved 2 extra table for unexpected guests.. but this is not enough!.. and half way through it.. my auntie even told us that we might not be eating at the tables after all.. i was like.. ".holy.. macaroni.. what the??.."
But eventually.. we got our seats.. just separately.. i got to sit with X .. im not telling who so dont bug me about it okay.. the went was crazy.. but successfully done.. it lasted and everyone tapao'ed home.. ahhahah.. phew.. we got kareoke.. and my mum sang .. 'tian mi mi' .. omg.. i was surprised myself okay.. dang, i didnt recorded that down.. /hehehe pheww..
mum singing ... omg..
so overall..
~ i typed 'then' more than 30 times i think..
~ it was crazy..
~ i was extremely exhausted after that..
~ grandparents were happy
~ cousin got new wife..
HAPPY ENDING!! Man, i hope we aint having any more wedding in our house anymore.. it's soo energy draining.. so, this is for your view.. i hope this isnt too long and i apologize for the cina-hokkien-english-bm stuff.. i'm lazy to type in essay-style.. maybe for the next event la.. ENJOY!
then i went back to bath and take 5 mins nap.. too tired liao.. aduh, my mum dragged me up and we went back to my cousin's at around 1.. for lunch.. buffet from satay house! yays.. all my relatives and my cousin's friend were there.. woohoo.. nice food.. yum yum.. for the afternoon.. my mum said i need not follow soo i guess i got the day off.. NOT.. after eating my mum, dad, sis went back to rest.. while i stayed behind to help cleaning up... that lasted like.. 2 hours.. my cousin and his wife pulak went back to desa wira for.. '3rd visit' -.. some pantang also la.. after that they will be going to the studios to get changed and preparation for the night..
this is the part where i get to brag about me being hardworking.. i helped my auntie clear the plates.. cleaned the floor.. mop..sweep.. wash the car porch and clean dishes.. Just right before my cousin went off, he slid another angpow in my pocket! YAYS!! 3rd one for the day man.. Soon after, my 'seh suk meh', 'kimberly' (cousin), ah boy (cousin, also groom's bro), siao ku, ah yang (cousin, siao ku's son) and myself.. went to get our hair done..
hehe we went to several places but all tutup. So we end up in Vienna, Hui Sing.. the lady was the only one who's making our hair.. so we took turns..
My seh suk meh - he did her hair poofy.. like some 70'ies style.. primmadonna... poofy..
Kim - he curled the end of her hair temporarily.. cute
Me - got my hair washed.. refreshing absolutely.. and got it tied half to the back with pins then a bit curly in the front.. it does look weird to me at first.. i like.. grew 5 years older!
Siao ku - she got washed and blew her hair.. macam normal aje.
Ah boy - he too got his hair washed and spiked his hair.. like some tsunami just hit his hair.. to one side..
ah yang - his hair was thick so he got it cut, then spiked.. like cloud FF7.. but not blonde.. and his hair kurang sikit..
Okay, it was already 5.25pm when i got home and i only got like 10 mins to get ready and zoom off the the dinner .. (grandma say have to be there at 6).. so faster i bath and change then we went to cousin's at 5.45.. Whoa my grandparents were ready.. but the rest were.. running around doing this and that.. @.@ ,, chaos..
at 6 the bride and groom got there first to greet the guest.. just in case.. We, family members.. arrived late.. around 6.15.. but still in time.. i got there and did my job.. snap snap snap.. guests arrived slowly... and out of our expectations.. there were more guests than we expected.. yes, we did reserved 2 extra table for unexpected guests.. but this is not enough!.. and half way through it.. my auntie even told us that we might not be eating at the tables after all.. i was like.. ".holy.. macaroni.. what the??.."
But eventually.. we got our seats.. just separately.. i got to sit with X .. im not telling who so dont bug me about it okay.. the went was crazy.. but successfully done.. it lasted and everyone tapao'ed home.. ahhahah.. phew.. we got kareoke.. and my mum sang .. 'tian mi mi' .. omg.. i was surprised myself okay.. dang, i didnt recorded that down.. /hehehe pheww..
mum singing ... omg..~ i typed 'then' more than 30 times i think..
~ it was crazy..
~ i was extremely exhausted after that..
~ grandparents were happy
~ cousin got new wife..
HAPPY ENDING!! Man, i hope we aint having any more wedding in our house anymore.. it's soo energy draining.. so, this is for your view.. i hope this isnt too long and i apologize for the cina-hokkien-english-bm stuff.. i'm lazy to type in essay-style.. maybe for the next event la.. ENJOY!
me and Kenken.. cutie pie~~ im gonna miss you.. muaks..
